As we all move through family life, especially when it comes to parenting our teenagers, there are going to be times when things aren’t pretty. Awkward conversations, sighs, and eye rolls are just part of being the parent of a teenager. Another part of parenting a teen is navigating conflict (lots of conflict). We are inevitably going to find ourselves disagreeing, arguing, and living in frequent moments of conflict. Part of our role as parents is to guide, support, and direct our teens. The problem is that, more often than not, it feels like the last thing your teenager wants is to be guided, supported, or directed, and that causes conflict. What do you do? In order to move to a healthier place in our relationships, we have to learn how to talk through our differences and seek resolution. Hopefully, that resolution can move to reconciliation, and our family can move ahead—being a little stronger and with a more solid foundation. In order to move to a healthier place in our relationships, we have to learn how to talk through our differences, navigate conflict, listen, and seek resolution.


This month, we’re excited to offer you a special parenting resource that will encourage you to focus on building solid relationships with your teens so that you can have the conversations you need to have with them as they grow. We’ve partnered with our friend and this month’s M2P Podcast guest, Patti Pilkington Reed. Patti is the author of the book Face to Face: Smart Conversations with Yourself, Your Teenager, and Your Young Adult. Patti is graciously providing you with a downloadable PDF reflection titled “Their Voice.” In this resource, Patti shares some thoughts and a few thought-provoking questions concerning the importance of parents affirming the voice of their teenager as they grow and develop their own voice through their opinions, desires, passions, and thoughts.






When it comes to actually putting principles into practice that will help us have the conversations we need to have in the midst of conflict, it can be simple to understand but hard to actually do. There are some foundational pieces of living a life of faith that our teens need to see from us so that having difficult conversations is possible. How we live out our relationship with God on a daily basis plays into the conversations we have with our teenagers. How they see us having other conversations paints a picture for them of what talking about difficult issues looks like. If we take the time to listen to them and resist the urge to always teach and frequently lecture, we will have a better opportunity to build the relationships we need to bear the weight of the conflict we will feel.

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