GOOOALS Helping Your
Student Win in the New Year
In today’s blog post GOOOALS Helping Your Student Win in the New Year, we are giving two quick types of goals that you can share with families in your church. This is an excerpt from one of the resources that can be found in the toolbox section of the M2P membership.
They say “goals without a plan is just a wish.”
It is important for parents of older children to come up with goals that also have a path map to win! Like the sports they may play, there is practice, plays, preparation and a plan in place to score a GOOOAL!! Here are some hints to help you assist your student in creating goals for the New Year (or whenever):
PRACTICE: “Practice makes perfect,” at least that is what they also say!? Just like anything else in your child’s life, you want to teach them to start small and work their way up. Often with the “I want it all” mind-set of these years, they think big, but are they thinking small first? The best way to think with them is to start with practice goals.
Before they plan a whole 12 months ahead, have them think of some smaller practice goals for the next 12 days. Have them come up with some realistic short-term goals for different areas related to the long-term goals.
They can use these goals as practice for loses and wins. It will allow them to learn from the fails and celebrate the successes!
Examples: Grades – Long Term Goal: Get straight “A’s” this next grading period – Short Practice: Get an “A” on the next 3 assignments
PLAY: When our children are younger, we teach them to play nice with others and how to play together. If they are on a sports team, they do not play alone, they play as a team. If they have a great coach, they will teach them the plays, to score together as a team.
The same things should be true as a family team. Team up with your child to come up with ways to play together to achieve the goals that they are working on. As you begin to make your list of goals, work together and make sure that not all the goals are individual or self-centered goals. Adolescence is a time of development where a person thinks individualistically and is self-focused.
Have honest and real conversations about thinking about others. Have them think about family, friends, community, and church connected to their goals. Give them also some independence and freedom to create this list on their own first, before you have some discussion together. It is essential for their goals and ideas to be their own.
They need to be able to think independently about their interdependence on others.
Have them come up with a realistic number of goals. For tweens (5th-8th grade), maybe 3-4 goals. For older teens (9th-12th grade), they can come up with a longer list of goals, maybe even in 5-6 particular areas of their life (academics, family, relationships, spiritual life, attitude/emotions, maturity…)
[This was an excerpt from one of the many resources that can be found in the “Toolbox” section of our M2P membership]
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